Growing up is a can be a difficult time. You are learning to be independent. You are trying to find your way.
When you were younger, you probably had friends or relatives who were supportive of you. As you grow, you may encounter failure, or experience negative emotions.
This may happen, for example, if you apply to a certain school or university and don’t get accepted. Or perhaps you don’t have the money to take the next step. This article will help you deal with some of that.
Let’s start with not being able to go to school because of money. Did you know that many community colleges offer the basics that are required at 4-year colleges? Sometimes you can take some of these classes as a senior in high school. Or, even if you go as a Freshman and Sophomore in college, the cost is much less than a 4-year college. You can get basics out of the way for a lot less money.
There are lots of good options at community colleges. There are trades you can learn. You can learn to be a dental hygienist or health care worker. You can learn to be an auto mechanic. There are good paying careers that you can achieve by going through a trade program at a community college. Check them out.
Flexibility and adaptation are undoubtedly two outlooks that help people recover from bad situations. Whereas someone who may feel entrenched in their negative feelings finds it harder to remove themselves from those feelings and change direction, those who are willing to see emotions as things that grip them tighter the more they focus on them, and understand how to let go and change direction quickly, come out on top.
If your first pathway does not work out, consider your options.
In a way, emotions are like quicksand or Chinese finger traps.
By seeing negative events in your life as flexible, short term situations, you can more easily move on. Let’s imagine someone who sees these negative events as a fixed point in space and time (pardon the sci-fi speak, but this does make sense). To them, that disappointment they felt with themselves or that failure they felt, is a fixed point in their life. It’s always there. Nothing they can do will change that fact that there is failure and disappointment in their lives.
Those who view situations as being temporary, will be more likely to see the same situation as a speed bump in Life’s rear view mirror.
So what can you do to help you adopt this outlook?
Ever poured paint or bleach into a bucket of water? That’s how negative people think. When one bad thing enters their life, it starts to spread and color everything else. They may well have been the life and soul of the party until that point, but now everything is just a mess!
Just because you don’t get something done the first time doesn’t mean you won’t get it done at another point in the future. Stop. Consider the next best step or options. Move ahead one step at a time.
Sometimes, looking back, we can see that God was blocking a pathway because there was a better pathway available.
This is where the Christian, the child of God has another option. A Christian can pray and ask God why something is not working out and what to do about it.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
Jesus did not say that Christians would not have problems.
John 16:33 I have told you these things, that in me you may have peace. In the world you have trouble; but cheer up! I have overcome the world.”
Christians can go to God and pour out their hearts to him.
Psalm 62:8 Trust in him at all times, you people. Pour out your heart before him. God is a refuge for us. Selah.
But first, someone must be born again to establish a connection with God. That connection was broken in the garden when Adam and Eve sinnned and from then on, the broken connection was passed down to all mankind. Jesus made a way to re-establish connection with God.
Romans 10:9 that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation.
How come some people give up and cry into a bottle, while others just pick themselves up, dust themselves off and carry on as if nothing happened? A big part of it can be a person’s relationship to God and obedience to the Word of God.
If you establish a relationship with God, He can help you deal with problems and build emotional resilience.
All children deserve a top notch education, but making that happen for your children does not have to mean expensive private schools or living in the most elaborate neighborhoods. Many families have decided that homeschooling is a better option. There are numerous curriculum available that allow you to teach your children at home. If you want to learn more, read this article.
You may be homeschooling your child to protect them from the social misfits in public school, but your child still requires social interaction with children their own age. Schedule play dates with family members, neighbors or friends. Often there are homeschooling groups that offer group activities for homeschooling families. These kinds of activities may be unique to the geographical area…for example, a visit to a local zoo or museum. Find the local homeschooling group in your area (many areas have one of these); this can be a tremendous resource in more than one way.
Make a budget plan for homeschooling. Figuring out what supplies you’ll need and what trips you might want to take will help you figure out the financials. Create individual accounts for each child. If you are thrifty, you can often find used school supplies, used craft supplies, and used curriculums from within a homeschool group or a Facebook group or an online garage sale or a thrift store.
Research local homeschooling laws. Search the HSDLA website for specific information about your state. If the Board of Education or CPS asks you questions, a homeschooling organization can be of great help. The help you get will make paying any dues and membership fees well worth your while.
Homeschooling offers children many unique advantages not available at overcrowded and underfunded public schools. Giving your children a no-pressure standardized state test can help you to gauge where they are at academically compared to their peers. If their results fall below state standards, you may want to find a tutor to help. A tutor does not necessarily mean paying thousands to a tutor business. There are gifted high school students who can help. An older brother or sister, or aunt, or grandma, or grandpa or neighbor who wants to spend a little time reading or helping with math or science can be a solution. Some churches offer sessions where students can get together for extra help.
Your children will need a place to study that is free from distractions. Select a spot that is removed from their usual play areas. Make sure there is enough space to store supplies when not in use.
The comfort of a nurturing home environment that is conducive to learning is a better alternative to any environment that is uncomfortable or prohibitive to learning.
Don’t neglect your most important relationships while homeschooling. Spend time with your spouse regularly, instead of being completely absorbed in the homeschool process all the time. No one should feel excluded or neglected because you spend a lot of time with the child you are homeschooling. Making time several times per week for the entire family is important for everyone.
Homeschooling can magnify emotions leading to tense situations because you and your children spend so much time together. Do not let these conflicts resurface during your leisure time. If things get rough, take a break. This mental time out will give you both a chance to relax and regroup.
If you’re homeschooling your children, make sure your spouse is taking care of things you might not be able to get to. Your mate can take the kids to their practices and games, for example. Your children spend time with you most every day, so make sure that is balanced out by time with the other parent.
Let your child create a blog. Writing in a blog can give your child a chance to practice his writing skills as part of his curriculum. Your child should focus on a particular subject matter and write about it frequently. Also, make sure to make the blog private. They will learn how to write an article based on research, a valuable skill. Another alternative is to write fiction and poetry as a creative outlet.
You should know more about homeschooling now that you have read this information. You can now decide if homeschooling is the best opportunity for your children.
The answers to the question posed by the title are as diverse as those who choose to homeschool. Parents opt for homeschooling for reasons ranging from a desire to instill certain values to the wish to remove students from an unsafe public school environment to the desire to provide a superior education. But the most basic, general reason for most is the well-founded belief that homeschooling is ultimately better for their child.
‘Better’ can mean a variety of things, but it incorporates as many absences as it does positives. The absence of peer pressure or bullying are two prominent features of public school that many homeschooling parents want to remove from their child’s life. But the positive aspect is equally important. The view that a better education can be gained by homeschooling over public or even standard private schools has been well studied.
And the studies largely agree: homeschooling is educationally superior in the overwhelming majority of cases.
There are many individual success stories. The winner of the 1997 National Spelling Bee was homeschooled. Four sisters, all homeschooled, went on to achieve Master’s degrees from an Ivy League university. One young woman was homeschooled and entered college, getting her Master’s degree by age 16. She later taught at a Texas community college by the age of 18.
But these could be dismissed with a wave of the hand, claiming these students, and/or their parents, were unusual. But the number of geniuses in the world is not so high as to account for all the numbers. And the numbers say that the average homeschooled child is in the 60th-70th percentile by age 12. That means they are, on average, a grade ahead of their public school peers.
The numbers for older children are even more impressive. By the time the average homeschooled child reaches the equivalent of 8th grade, he or she is four grades ahead of his or her peers. That’s as much due to the bad results of public schools as it is the good results of homeschooling. The numbers are based on studies reported not merely by homeschool advocates, but by the U.S. Dept of Education itself.
Of course, as most homeschooling parents know, nothing good comes easy. Parents often experience burnout, especially a few months after first beginning to homeschool. As with any new task, it takes time to acquire the knowledge needed to teach a young person all they need to know to develop properly. Poor performance is the default in life and to rise above that takes effort, on the part of both student and parent. But, first and foremost, the onus is on the parent.
Children, according to a well-established homeschool philosophy, are natural sponges for knowledge. But most homeschooling parents feel the need to research curriculum options, define goals, guide children and a host of other tasks. If the parent has not been homeschooled or well-educated they may have some catching up of their own to do.
But are the results worth the effort? If the outcome desired is a well-adjusted, keen-minded offspring ready for life’s challenges, for most parents, that’s an easy question to answer.