Growing up is a can be a difficult time. You are learning to be independent. You are trying to find your way.
When you were younger, you probably had friends or relatives who were supportive of you. As you grow, you may encounter failure, or experience negative emotions.
This may happen, for example, if you apply to a certain school or university and don’t get accepted. Or perhaps you don’t have the money to take the next step. This article will help you deal with some of that.
Let’s start with not being able to go to school because of money. Did you know that many community colleges offer the basics that are required at 4-year colleges? Sometimes you can take some of these classes as a senior in high school. Or, even if you go as a Freshman and Sophomore in college, the cost is much less than a 4-year college. You can get basics out of the way for a lot less money.
There are lots of good options at community colleges. There are trades you can learn. You can learn to be a dental hygienist or health care worker. You can learn to be an auto mechanic. There are good paying careers that you can achieve by going through a trade program at a community college. Check them out.
Flexibility and adaptation are undoubtedly two outlooks that help people recover from bad situations. Whereas someone who may feel entrenched in their negative feelings finds it harder to remove themselves from those feelings and change direction, those who are willing to see emotions as things that grip them tighter the more they focus on them, and understand how to let go and change direction quickly, come out on top.
If your first pathway does not work out, consider your options.
In a way, emotions are like quicksand or Chinese finger traps.
By seeing negative events in your life as flexible, short term situations, you can more easily move on. Let’s imagine someone who sees these negative events as a fixed point in space and time (pardon the sci-fi speak, but this does make sense). To them, that disappointment they felt with themselves or that failure they felt, is a fixed point in their life. It’s always there. Nothing they can do will change that fact that there is failure and disappointment in their lives.
Those who view situations as being temporary, will be more likely to see the same situation as a speed bump in Life’s rear view mirror.
So what can you do to help you adopt this outlook?
Ever poured paint or bleach into a bucket of water? That’s how negative people think. When one bad thing enters their life, it starts to spread and color everything else. They may well have been the life and soul of the party until that point, but now everything is just a mess!
Just because you don’t get something done the first time doesn’t mean you won’t get it done at another point in the future. Stop. Consider the next best step or options. Move ahead one step at a time.
Sometimes, looking back, we can see that God was blocking a pathway because there was a better pathway available.
This is where the Christian, the child of God has another option. A Christian can pray and ask God why something is not working out and what to do about it.
James 1:5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. 6 But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7 That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8 Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do.
Jesus did not say that Christians would not have problems.
John 16:33 I have told you these things, that in me you may have peace. In the world you have trouble; but cheer up! I have overcome the world.”
Christians can go to God and pour out their hearts to him.
Psalm 62:8 Trust in him at all times, you people. Pour out your heart before him. God is a refuge for us. Selah.
But first, someone must be born again to establish a connection with God. That connection was broken in the garden when Adam and Eve sinnned and from then on, the broken connection was passed down to all mankind. Jesus made a way to re-establish connection with God.
Romans 10:9 that if you will confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For with the heart, one believes resulting in righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made resulting in salvation.
How come some people give up and cry into a bottle, while others just pick themselves up, dust themselves off and carry on as if nothing happened? A big part of it can be a person’s relationship to God and obedience to the Word of God.
If you establish a relationship with God, He can help you deal with problems and build emotional resilience.